Anger can be defined as the combination of bodily tension and the view of the world as insulting, assaulting, frustrating, unfair and/or irritating.
Unresolved anger often leads to lack of closure and bitterness. Psychological problems can also manifest in anger, a deep depression may have anger at it's foundation. Anger can be expressed in a psychotic episode, either with schizophrenia and in a manic state. It is important though to realize that anger that is not addressed tends to cause us a number of physical, psychological and relational problems.
Although it is a healthy,
normal emotion it is probably
also the most complex.
It can be a creative force for
change or to right an injustice.
The goal of anger management is to reduce the feelings and arousal that anger creates. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help people to manage their anger and help to explore the underlying issues. Knowing how to recognize and express anger in the correct way can help individuals reach their goals, solve problems and handle emergencies – and have their needs met.
For the management of all psychological issues that are problematic 3 components are necessary; awareness, balance and control.
Anger management too, needs these 3 components.
1. AWARENESS –we need to be aware of our anger from its beginnings [not only when it has escalated us out of control]
and we need to be aware of our anger triggers
2. BALANCE- we need to learn strategies to calm ourselves, to rebalance, or to manage our anger in appropriate ways
3. CONTROL- if we have the above we are able to regain control
If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider allowing Tender Loving Mercy to teach you how to handle it better. A counselor or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.
With counseling a highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about 8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.
At Tender Loving Mercy, we begin with your personal Anger Awareness, examining your internal cues; both the Psychological and Physiological changes that occur. We also examine the external cues resulting from your anger experience. We then move on to discussing the traditional "Fight or Flight" response and then various anger styles.
From here, we begin to explore your "anger style" and then jointly determine where your "triggers and provocations" lie. We investigate power and control issues and how they relate to anger.
At this point in the program, the focus shifts from the introspective to the pro-active. We will explore effective communication of anger, assertiveness and the understanding of our feelings underneath our anger.
We will investigate methods of Stress Management and then the Family of Origin issues relating to anger expression. The short and long term effects of anger expression on your health are explored.
Where applicable, the issues of substance use or abuse and relationship issues are delved into and finally we learn the tools and techniques that allow us to manage our anger.
You Will Learn How To...
- Understand the roots of your anger
- Recognize your "anger style"
- Learn tools & techniques to manage your anger
- Release your anger in a safe and supportive environment
- Face and resolve the anger of your past
- Take charge of your life!